Lies We Tell Ourselves

Lies We Tell Ourselves


2 Pet 1:5-7

5          For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge;

6          and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness;

7          and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love.

  1. Bandwagon
  2. Society seems whipped when it comes to trying to overcome addictions and compulsions.
  3. Overeating
  4. Alcohol
  5. Drugs
  6. Gambling
  7. Tobacco
  8. Pornography
  9. Promised solutions.
  10. Diet books
  11. Drug rehabilitation centers
  12. AA
  13. Gamblers Anonymous
  14. 12 step programs concerning just about everything.
  15. Hypnotist
  16. God must have an answer.


  1. This is a progressive list.
  2. Sanctification begins with faith and results in love.
  3. Each part of the divine nature gives birth to another:
  4. Faith gives birth to goodness
  5. Goodness gives birth to knowledge
  6. Knowledge gives birth to self-control, etc.
  7. Self-control is an important virtue.
  8. Things that control people:








Working too hard at work




John 8:32

32        Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

III.             Knowledge produces self-control

  1. Everyone knows they ought to exercise self-control but often they don’t know how. Knowledge is a pre-requisite for self-control.
  2. Satan lies to keep us in bondage.
  3. We should not speak to ourselves his lies. Doing so will unbridle the body.

James 3:2

2          We all stumble in many ways. If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to keep his whole body in check.

  1. These lies come in the form of “Misbeliefs”.
  2. We must replace misbeliefs with the truth.


  1. The following are some of the misbeliefs people have concerning self-control.
  2. If I fail Once, I’ll always fail.
  3. Most people who have quit smoking have tried many times to quit.
  4. Illustration, rocket takes more effort at the beginning of the launch than later after it leaves the gravitation pull of the earth.


1 Cor 10:13

13        No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.

  1. I can’t deny myself.
  2. Story of the imaginary woman who “had” to have ice cream.
  3. You can deny yourself. You can say no to yourself. It is not the end of all things if you have to suffer pain. You can stand it. You really can.
  4. “I’ll go to pieces.” “The world is coming to the end.”
  5. Terry Waite, “Everyone has the inner resources to go through what I went through.” 4 years in solitary confinement in Beirut.
  6. It is not easy to deny yourself, but for the sake of a higher, nobler life, it’s necessary.
  7. Most of the time, you’ll find that gaining something valuable in your life will depend on being willing to tolerate distress, anxiety, discomfort and discontent.

Ro 5:3 “We also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.


  1. I’m only hurting myself.
  2. We are all part of the body.
  3. Women in office, crying over their husbands drinking binges.


  1. Since I thought it, I might as well do it.

Matt 5:28

28        But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

  1. Shows that sinning with the eyes are not the

same as sinning with the flesh.


  1. I’ve worked so hard and done so well, I deserve to indulge a little bit.

Luke 17:10

10        So you also, when you have done everything you were told to do, should say, ‘We are unworthy servants; we have only done our duty.'”

  1. You do not deserve to be unholy.


  1. I need this.
  2. Don’t confuse “I need” with “I want”.

Phil 4:13

13 I can do everything through him who gives me strength.

  1. Paul was able to handle all things.


  1. You must argue against each of these misbeliefs with the truth.
  2. You do these things because you “choose” to.
  3. Self-control is a choice.
  4. You may not choose your circumstances, but you choose how you will live in your circumstances.
  5. You can’t choose how people act toward you, but you can choose how you will react to them.
  6. Three principles about choice.
  7. Admit you make your choice. “My wife made me hit her.”
  8. Remind yourself that you are responsible for what you are doing.
  9. Prepare to accept the consequences of your behavior even if unpleasant.
  10. Many people come for counseling hoping the counselor will magically remove the consequences of their behavior.
  11. Example: Please talk to the parole officer about me.
  12. Pay for my tickets.


  1. Misbeliefs during your progress toward self-control.
  2. I had nothing to do with my progress. It was all the Lord.

2 Pet 1:10

10        Therefore, my brothers, be all the more eager to make your calling and election sure. For if you do these things, you will never fall,

  1. It is true that without Christ you can do nothing, but it is equally true that without you God will do nothing.
  2. I can never fall again.
  3. Be on your guard, Satan will attack again.
  4. One slip will cost me everything. I’ll lose all the ground I’ve gained.
  5. Sanctification is a process.
  6. Fruit grows. It doesn’t appear.


  • The stage is set. Props, characters, situation,

            You write the script.


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